by David Anderson
One of the simplest joys of life is to make something beautiful. For me that joy is greater when that something has been run down or broken or left for useless. For the past three days I have been painting my daughter and son-in-law’s new apartment in New York. Actually, I have been working on […]
by David Anderson 14 Comments Filed Under: Family, Transformation
I am sitting with my father, playing gin rummy, but I might as well be sitting in a monastery or any retreat house. I am here for a week. Our days are simple and highly ritualized. Breakfast is at 8:30. (Two eggs on an English muffin, daily, for him.) We may converse for a while […]
by David Anderson 7 Comments Filed Under: Community, Daily Practice, Family, Intimacy, Prayer/Meditation, Silence
Eight boxes. That’s how many they packed for their last move to a new apartment in Manhattan. Thirty boxes. That’s the number for the move three years later. On Saturday, Pam and I helped our daughter and son-in-law, Maggy and Andy, move into their new apartment in New York. After years of renting, they finally […]
by David Anderson 11 Comments Filed Under: Change, Family
There is an old Jewish story about the young pupil who asks the respected rabbi a question about that well-known passage in Deuteronomy 6:6. “And these words, which I command you this day, shall be upon your heart.” “Why is it this way?” the pupil asks. “Why are we told to put these words upon […]
by David Anderson 7 Comments Filed Under: Change, Family, Love, Suffering
The hardest thing to do is to accept another person as they are. That truth resounded once more this week as I listened to a woman talk about a struggle with her sister. They were often at odds, she said, because their lives were so—blood—similar and yet so completely different. They had different career goals, […]
by David Anderson 7 Comments Filed Under: Conflict, Family, Freedom, Letting Go, Love
This morning I was on the phone with a colleague. As we were winding down our conversation I mentioned that I had just returned from my annual family reunion. “Oh,” he said, “you know what my family calls those annual get-togethers? Dysfunction Junction.” We had a laugh. Families and their awkward attempts at reunion are […]
by David Anderson 3 Comments Filed Under: Conflict, Family, Forgiveness, Grace, Identity, Love
First you must learn to obey. Good. Then, it is just as important to learn to disobey. We teach children to obey their parents and all the other authority figures in their lives. This is critical, not just for their moral development, but for their basic safety and well being. When I was a young […]
by David Anderson 3 Comments Filed Under: Adult Spirituality, authority, Family, Identity, Vocation/ Calling
Today is my 35th wedding anniversary. Pam and I were married June 3rd 1978 in Panama City, Florida. After 35 years, my marriage is blessedly the most important thing in my life. But it wasn’t always. We all marry a fantasy, an idealized image of the perfect husband or wife. A few months or years […]
by David Anderson 20 Comments Filed Under: Change, Conflict, Family, Forgiveness, Grace, Happiness, Love, Surrender